Showing posts with label pain. Show all posts
Showing posts with label pain. Show all posts

Wednesday, 2 September 2015

Pain Reality - The Healing Process


Written by Mathew Naismith

I've been nagged in the last 18 hrs with, "You need to write about pain and how the reality we exist in defines the physical and mental pain we will experience". In other words pain is defined by the reality we are experiencing, in certain realities pain just can't exist, this is due to compassion by the collective within a reality. Pain within these realities is dealt with before pain even gets to a painful stage, this is quite the opposite within this reality, actually, many people live off of people in pain and sickness in this reality, this isn't so in other realities.

Pain isn't a part of or even a necessary part of all realities, actually, very few realities are painful in any sense, this reality is an exception.

Synchronicity: I had a good internet friend of mine post the following on a Google community.

Compassion

We all have compassion within us. 
If a tear comes to your eyes or you feel the pain when you suffer, or see others  suffering, human or animal that is compassion you are feeling.

Do not be afraid to show your compassion.

Do not be afraid to feel and to acknowledge your feelings.
This world and the humanity needs our compassion much more than ever before.
Let your tears flow and accept what you are feeling.

Your heart begins to open much more with feelings of compassion and your capacity to care for another increases even more.

You also feel a connection towards everything and everyone as your heart blossoms like the Lotus that rises from the depths of the muddy pool.



My first reply was as follow.

Awareness and compassion go hand in hand, one can't exist without the other.

This was agreed upon by other commentator's, I then followed up with a more comprehensive reply as below. 

It's funny to think a lot of people who are not compassionate are only this way because of an unawareness, for example, would multinationals use and abuse other energy forms if they were truly aware?  Would a child molester abuse children?

The funny thing about child molesters is, a lot of them were also molested as children. They are aware of what they are doing but only to a certain extent, pain usually hinders us becoming aware beyond the pain experienced making us unaware.

Multinationals unawareness comes from opulence, they desire and it's this desire that makes them unaware. Two quite different scenarios creating the same dilemma, unawareness therefore  unfeeling. I could be incorrect with this but I got a feeling not.  

      
To my surprise I received the following reply.

I am a survivor of child molestation. And I definitely would never harm any child. We are also, as survivors much more likely to be raped repeatedly again, to become homeless, to struggle with substance abuse or dependence issues, to have PTSD, and many other long-lasting issues directly connected to our molestation as a child. Bad example. Your words hit me personally, raw and vulnerable. My situations and circumstances have made me so much more loving, compassionate and giving to children, and especially to children who are living in poverty, or starved for attention themselves. Awareness is key. Check your statistics. And don't make general assumptions. Yet again, Awareness is key. Thank you

I replied with the following.

Assumptions, you are assuming yourself I wasn't abused, I also worked with paedophiles as well in the welfare arena. I didn't say all the people who were abused in this way turned out to be abusers themselves but I do know a great number of them do. So many become un-compassionate because of the pain, I know this to be fact KL.

I worked in the welfare arena twice over in my fifty two years, I'm not assuming anything, I know by actual experiences and working in the welfare arena.   

Pain can and does make people unaware, it made you quite unaware of me did it not, you assumed because you were unaware? See my point about pain and how it can make people unaware, it blinds people to the truth KL? Abusing yourself is still abuse KL!!

You and I were the lucky one's, I helped many out in the disability field in particular by using my own life experiences. Some people use the pain to assist others through compassion, many others use the pain to cause more pain, this is a fact of life KL, have you abused yourself? It's still abuse KL.......  

I should also state I stated the following.

"The funny thing about child molesters is, a lot of them were also molested as children".

This is saying a lot of child molesters have been abused themselves, this isn't stating that all child molesters become molesters themselves or become un-compassionate.

Pain most often leads to an unawareness or ignorance, what kind of reality are we existing in?

This is funny, I was going to write a post about pain and  how the reality we live in creates pain when it doesn't have too. It's the reality we accept that automatically creates the pain and ignorance. In certain other kinds of realities this doesn't exist, this is due to everyone being compassionate, this of course takes the collective to be aware. It all makes sense but it takes the collective to over come the pain through compassion especially of oneself to become aware.

You need to be aware to become compassionate but you also need compassion to become aware in certain circumstances!!


I think this person had to misconstrue what I actually stated within my second reply to get me to write about the connection between pain and realities, I wasn't going to write this post, this was until I received their reply. It's funny how we a prompted at times.

Pain can indeed influence us to make misconceptions and misjudgements of others and life circumstances,  this of course adds more pain to the reality we are experiencing, however, is it the reality that causes the pain or is it the pain that creates  realities of pain to begin with?



Painless realities: We exist in a universe that is extreme within it's motions, the universe itself is expanding out at a phenomenal (extraordinary) rate, it's also very highly active within it's star systems, there is very little that exists in the universe that is motionless. When we look at realities that are more compassionate, there is one huge difference, they exist in a reality that is less about motion. This doesn't mean they are not within a universe like this one, what this means is they are aware that these universes can influence us to become overly expressive of motions, in other words become extreme within our motions, pain is just one of these extreme motional expressions.

This pain is going to influence us in how aware we become, it will also hinder us to become wise, meaning, motionless within our expressions. You might think how can we be compassionate without expressing ourselves?  In these realities of less motion, therefore expressions, you don't have to express this compassion because it just there all the times. This is like pain for us within this reality, it's just there all the times,  within these realities of less motion, compassion is just there all the times without having to express it. In other words it's 24/7 compassion instead of 24/7 pain like within this reality.

What I am saying is pain is a part of this reality, it's one of the main influences of this reality, however, if we put ourselves in a different reality of less motion, we would no longer exist in a reality influenced by pain.

I will give you a good example of this. I've been in chronic pain since I was six years old, as I get older, my condition is worsening but I still don't take pain killers even though the pain at times becomes acute (chronic). The pain still influences me but I don't allow it to dictate to me to any great extent, it's amazing what I can and have accomplished with a chronic injury. When I'm within a motionless reality, like being in my own space, I can accomplish amazing physical feats, this is all due to being in a reality not predominantly influenced by pain. Once I come out of this reality back into this reality of motions,  pain starts to influence me more, this isn't because I'm in pain, it's because I am no longer in a relatively motionless free reality.

To me without a doubt, pain of any kind will keep us ignorant and un-compassionate, it will also influence us to make misjudgements towards others and the circumstances we come across. Pain will also hinder us to become wise, this is because pain is all about emotional expressions of motions where's wisdom is quite the opposite. Under a reality influenced by wisdom, compassion exist without any motion what so ever, there is no motion because you have nothing to react to or against.

I should also say, desire is another motion that can't exist within a reality influenced by wisdom, this is due to desire and pain being extreme within their motions.

The healing process is simple, become less expressive of motions.


Supplement: This is going to sound strange to a lot of people, I don't mind being in pain in a reality of motion because I accept that is what this reality is about, it's about motion that can be influential towards expressions of pain and desire. The thing is, this reality isn't of pain itself, it's only about motions and it can be about extreme motions. We have used motions within this reality to create pain and desire, what would happen if we learnt to use motions in a more constructive way? This of course takes wisdom and learning to become less of these motions especially extreme motions.

Something to also ponder about. You might think spiritualist in India are about control, and yes control is a motion, but their not, they about finding their truer selves, in other words being of their immortal (motionless) self rather than just being of their mortal (motional) self.  They are also about letting go of motions (control) not gaining more control!!


Pain period needs to be faced face on, it doesn't need for us to stick our heads in the sand and ignore slavery and child abuse for example, this kind of action only endorses this kind of  pain. Pain needs to be talked about otherwise it's just going to keep manifesting like it has.

Why is love healing?  Simple, it's an expression that needs very little motion, pain and desire on the other hand need a lot of motion, and of course the more motion we give them, the more destructive they become.

Facing the pain with love, as Tanuja and Michael do, works because it lessons the motions of pain. Compassion also works because this too lessons the motions of pain.

I'm sorry Tanuja for disrupting your important post by facing pain face on, I have a lot of compassion in facing the pain in the world. The worse thing we can do is stick our heads in the sand and not talk about this pain.

Pain to me is just a motion, it doesn't really have a label, this is because as soon as we give it a label, we give it more motion. Pain is just another motion that often needs compassion and love to neutralise.    

The funny thing about using love and compassion to neutralise motion, is the more of motion love an compassion become, the more they are of lust and desire. It's wise to know this because the more love and compassion are expressed through motion, the less they will neutralise motions. This makes sense because you can't neutralise motions with more motions, to actually neutralise motions needs less motions not more motions. It's actually wise to express love and compassion with as little motion as possible.


Now this doesn't mean you shouldn't physically help others because it's only going to add to the motions, all this means is to try not to act in counteraction, in other words help others by just showing simple compassion without trying to counteract other motions like starvation or homelessness for example. Don't react to a situation in counteraction to another motion, just show simple love and compassion, Yes, simple love and compassion are expressions but their subtle expressions because their not trying to counteract another motion with more motions. Any healing/neutralising of painful motions takes less motions, not more motions!! 


The following link is in reference to Tanuja's post on this Google community about compassion.